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Incest in The Family

from verylonelygirl - Friday, June 04, 2004
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I know my experience was extreme, but it seems that it was more common than I thought...

I noticed HeartBrokens article created a lot of discussion about incest. I wrote an article a while ago about my experience with incest. I was shocked by the response I got. I thought I would hear a lot of people say that they too had been abused in this way. But most people said they were shocked by my experience.

Reading the comments from Lynn's article made me see that it was in fact more common than I realized. Granted my experience was extreme. Incest between siblings seems to have been the most common. I think that this was an overflow from what us children were experiencing from other types of adult/child sex. Almost like a way of coping with and trying to understand what was happening to us.

I think those of us that were abused sexually by our own flesh and blood parents, it may be a little more hesitant to come forward even with ourselves and face what happened. For so long I did not even want to think about it. It made me physically ill.

After that event there were many sexual encounters with between many of our siblings. Remembering incestuous encounters with my brother is really what made me search my memories and finally to admit what happened with my mother and father.

For a long time I was guilt ridden by the fact that I had sexual encounters with my siblings. Now I know that they would not have happened had my parents not raped my sister and me together.

Side Note: Something that I wonder about is because so many of the children born into the group don't know who their fathers are, remaining in the group and having sex with members in the cult still may in fact be having offspring born of incest.

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from Baxter
Tuesday, June 08, 2004 - 13:04

Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5(Agree/Disagree?)

Just out of curiosity, do your parents try and make you take resposibility for your own emotional instability? do they call you a liar, an attention seeker, a delusional gossip, etc. ?

I think these people must genuinely feel guilty and always have done for what they did; they simply persist in an environment in which denial is institutionalised. Unless they are mentally defective they are aware of the damage they have caused, yet it is the power that they wield as biological parents, however discredited that status may be, that keeps their children still feeling guilty for their offences. Somehow they hold on to the absurd notion that they were good parents, even if they admit openly that they were not; they maintain the fantasy in their minds, and they will struggle against it, probably for the rest of their lives. Part of the problem might be that they commited their offences thinking that they were justified and that their actions were not a crime. They might simply not be abe to admit that they made a mistake.



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From moon beam
Thursday, June 10, 2004, 08:38

Average visitor agreement is 4 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 4 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 4 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 4 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 4 out of 5(Agree/Disagree?)
Yet deep in their minds they know how they rejected their own parents and society on a cults belief, and may never truly ask for forgiveness from their own parents-too proud! So they set the template so to speak- how much more would we reject ours? But we are more forgiving and they are still too proud to ask for forgivness from us because they can't see that we are reacting normally and not "burning our bridges" as they thought they were right in doing for the cult. Disconnecting from their parents helped to distance them from us. (reply to this comment
From Shackled
Wednesday, June 09, 2004, 19:02

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Good stuff!

When our parents/biological parents are on their deathbeds and we don't go to see them off they'll realise they wasted their life.


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Thursday, June 10, 2004, 07:37

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Maybe we should try to get prophecies from Obtherion about them so they can see what it's like!(reply to this comment

From Obsolete/Redundant, Unknown Evil Spirit
Saturday, June 12, 2004, 13:13

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'Who?'

'I must try and keep abreast of all these little changes in the spectral. How else am I to know whose airspace I share?'

'Cheerio, old boy!'





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