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from Haunted - Tuesday, December 04, 2007
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Opps - I meant "Blog"

As a kid, growing up in this crazy cult, we were required to do all manner of things that might seem strange to your average kid in the suburbs. There was this form called an OHR, or an Open Heart Report which we would all have to fill out every night. In it, they asked all kinds of personal and downright disgusting questions like: "Have you made love today?", "Have you had a Bowel Movement today?" and "If so: was it soft, medium or hard?"

But by far, the most dreaded of the questions and form requirements was that we write about a "lesson learned" every single damn day! This forced us all to become rather creative as we struggled to invent a different "lesson" that we could have possibly come across and "learned" in the course of our day.

It wasn't really difficult if you'd gotten a "demerit" that day (which, for some of us, was more often than not....) - you could "learn" that particular lesson again and just had to space it out so your "lessons learned" weren't repetitious too often or the readers of the aforementioned OHR might get suspicious.

That being said, I got to thinking today - what is a blog but a public OHR - a recounting of events, confessions, and ultimately "lessons learned"? These days, "lessons" have been on my mind a lot...I'm turning 30 (I know, how cliché'), I'm divorced, moving again after only 2 years and starting over again in this new year. 2008! When did that one sneak up on me?

So here goes, "I've learned" (oh god - flashbacks!!) that I'm absolutely TERRIBLE in money management!

There - I've finally admitted it.

These last 2 years have been a crazy experiment in living on my own for the first time in my life, along with the fun things that go along with that, like having only one income and paying your own bills. Mock me if you will, but I'd never even seen a checkbook in real life until I was about 19 and until July 2005 I'd never lived on my own before. (Did I mention I got married at 19?)

Needless to say, I've never been one of those amazingly smart individuals who learns from the mistakes of others....oh no. I've always been one of the more common of folk who blindly thrash into their own mistakes. In fact - I might even be worse: I might be the person who makes mistakes so those smart fuckers can learn as well. Ahhh...the injustice!

So yes - that's what I've learned from these last two years. Of course, only time will tell but personally, since I'm not forced to write these every day, I'd perfer not to repeat my "lessons", thank you very much.

I'm really supposed to be packing right now so I can move into a more affordable but ultimately nicer (yeah - I know Sis, shoulda done it years ago) apartment. And yeah, I'm a procrastinator.

But I'll save that "lesson" for another OHR...opps - I meant "Blog"...

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from Phoenixkidd
Wednesday, December 05, 2007 - 07:29


Haunted don't feel bad about feeling like you don't know how to do anything,

Here's a few of my stats:

1. Didn't know how to put an address on an enevelop properly untill age 18.

2. Didn't know how to write a check untill age 22, or how to cash it

3. Didn't know what "Corporate Office" meant untill age 23

4. Didn't go to a Football game until age 25.

5. Didn't go to a Baseball game untill age 22.

6. Didn't know how to apply for a loan, what subprime or APR meant.

7. Didn't know how to file taxes or what a tax return was untill age 23.

And lastly I still have never balanced a checkbook in my life--I let the computer take care of that.
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from mine was..
Tuesday, December 04, 2007 - 17:01

.. toooo much information!

Gook luck with the move. Chin up gal, it won't be long. New beginnings and all that.
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from no_BM's_ today
Tuesday, December 04, 2007 - 15:37

but, LoL, i'll keep you updated ;-)
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from exfamily
Tuesday, December 04, 2007 - 13:47

Well a blog differs in two important ways.

First, it is anonymous (or can be, if you wish). I don't mind speaking my mind and sharing intimate details about my life, so long as the reader doesn't actually know me.

Second, it's voluntary. You can write what you want, when you want, and if you don't want to or have nothing to say, you just don't write anything.

Obviously you already know that, but since you were comparing them...
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from solemn
Tuesday, December 04, 2007 - 11:10


Try online banking and bill paying, cool stuff. ;)

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From Haunted
Tuesday, December 04, 2007, 11:16

Thanks for the advice, but billpay only works if you have money to pay your bills with hahaha...this wasn't a post meant to be taken seriously...(reply to this comment
From madly
Tuesday, December 04, 2007, 11:33


Could have fooled me...

I am glad you aren't being serious, because I will never again add my "lessons" on anything that has the words "OHR" mentioned on it. No thank you.(reply to this comment

From Haunted
Tuesday, December 04, 2007, 11:56

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"Serious" as in: I wasn't asking for advice, I was ranting whilst mocking certain aspects of my childhood best joked about....(reply to this comment
From solemn
Wednesday, December 05, 2007, 10:58


Credit card fraud is always lucrative :P

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