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Girlfriend/boyfriends in the Family

from Meathead - Friday, October 01, 2004
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Just how screwed up are relationships in the cult?

I have no idea having never been in a relationship in the group, but from what i have seen from my friends their relatinships were wack.

I have a good friend who would cheat on his GF with other chicks just for sex (usually when the girl was drunk)and now he ended up marrying one of them.

My brother screwed our step sister when he was high. I myself never had a GF in TF cuz it was wierd. There was a standing joke among us that one day you would meet a girl and one day decide to get married. but when you tell your parents about it they pull you a side and tell you "honey, sorry we never told you before... but that is your half sister"

My older bro had like 1 gf in the cult when he was @ 15, but i think he also knew that relationships in the Family are a mess, cause some of the girls have no idea what a relationship is about. So he (my bro) would have "system" Gfs on the sly without my parents knowing. Same thing when I was 15-16 the girls in my area didn't even know jack a rats ass about "going out" so when I was 16 I simply found myself a nice gf (not in the family) even though we had to part ways we still love each other alot. Even though I have a new gf and she has a different bf. She said if we ever by chance end up near each other again we would hook back up. Now how many girls in TF would do THAT?

All this to say I just want to know peoples opinion of how relationships in TF and out are different. So give me sum feedback ok? tks

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from Baxter
Friday, October 01, 2004 - 05:41

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What's the definition of confusion?

Father's Day in the Family.

Yeah, I know it's an old one!

Anyway, I remember when I was about 14 onwards, there was this very bizarre trend that encouraged every one to get married at circa 16, which then created this whole new 'in crowd' of married people, a new claim to being cool, I guess. Being that I was younger than most, not very cool, and definitely not in with in crowd, I remember thinking that I was gonna be stuck in this fucking situation for the rest of my life. I guess it was pretty typical teenage angst, but the situation did not help shit.

Fucking funny now when I go home, and look at all those people who got married. Jeez! What a nightmare! Thank FUCK I didn't fall down that hole!


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Friday, October 01, 2004, 10:35

Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5(
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Wasn't that the "make it work" push? At an earlier point, I remember seeing a video showing Mikol (Juan's daughter) and her husband. They were supposedly a "good example," although she was pregnant and married at 14! What a load of twisted crap to feed to a 12 year old. (reply to this comment
From Siolo
Friday, October 01, 2004, 23:13

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Hey!

In Mark and Mikol's defense, yeah they were too young to get married but you know all these years later they are still together, being normal and raising thier kids. How many other people, system or family, can you say that about? So in a way they are actually a better example of a 'real' relationship than most of us have ever seen.

Just saying...(reply to this comment

From Baxter
Tuesday, October 05, 2004, 03:56

Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5(Agree/Disagree?)
Perhaps it's not my place to say this, but I wonder what sort of unnecessary problems they will have as parents that stem from the fact that they became parents at such a young age. I imagine issues have to appear on the radar at some point. (reply to this comment
From Haunted
Tuesday, October 05, 2004, 06:05

Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5(Agree/Disagree?)
Absolutely Baxter - I'm not saying that this applies to everyone, and as I don't know them certainly not the couple mentioned above, although I'd like to congratulate them on staying together this long. I think that there is a definate overwhelming majority of young people in the family that this has affected (among those who had children at a young age). I myself and many friends that I have had children while we were merely children ourselves, and yes, there are all sorts of issues that come with that. Above all there is the fact that we have no system or ideal of parenting to follow or draw from. Our parents are certainly not those we would seek out for parenting advise added to the fact that we had to go into adulthood while raising children. Yes, there are certainly many problem that could have been avoided had the cult cared more for our upbringing and less about creating a dependant class of SGAs who they hoped would be too frightened to leave because they had no idea how they would support their children out in the big scarey world - well, screw them, I know many who were courageous enough to accomplish this task (some with already large broods) - cheers to them all!!(reply to this comment
From Phoenixkidd
Monday, October 04, 2004, 15:20

Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5(Agree/Disagree?)
This is actually very very rare, so many of those young couples who got married ended up divorcing or in The Family would phrase it, "seperating". This is a modern world and getting married at age 14 or even for that matter 20 is just asking for a mess up in their family history. (reply to this comment
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Sunday, October 03, 2004, 08:07

Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5Average visitor agreement is 5 out of 5(
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Sorry, my comment was not meant to be an accusation of Mikol and Mark. I meant that it was awful to show TF "teens" (i.e. 12 year olds) how "sweet" and "loving" it was to get pregnant and married at 14. (reply to this comment

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