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Getting On : Lovers
Adult contact site for ex-members | from Aviator - Wednesday, January 17, 2007
accessed 1916 times Wish that there was an adult contact site for ex-members to meet up and "hookup". What do we think about that idea? Is anyone up to creating such a site. Please write your ideas about that. |
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Reader's comments on this article Add a new comment on this article |  from jonah
Monday, April 23, 2007 - 21:19
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really doesn't sound like an awful idea to me. Think about it, we can never tell our special people about us (not that to an extent that they would understand), we are always hidden in our shells and have to make up history's and pasts, or explain why we dont keep friends well, trust people, or talk too much (open up). With something like this we could OPEN UP, be ourselves and if even just for a short time we could be ALIVE again.
or maybe it's just me, I may be off my rocker really. But a ex-TF dating site or hangout site would rock. If he means like a sex-hookup site?????????? ok, I'm down for that too.
Jonah Coleman (Greece mostly 1985-1991, and a few others)
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|  From Oddman
Tuesday, April 24, 2007, 01:46
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"We can never tell our special people about us" Why not. I do.
It seems some bullshit and whatnot, I don't. I might not tell everybody everything, but I don't need to tell people every little detail of my life, even if they do ask.
I don't think the solution to curing your fear of the world is hanging around people who have the same problem. The cure would be jumping head on into the big bad world. Confront your fears. The fear of ridicule. The fear of not being understood. The fear of being different. I don't need the presence of another exer to be ALIVE. Yeah, I know life can suck sometimes, but I didn't leave one cult to join another.
As far as sex-hookup?????? Since when do you need some emotional connection for that? Since when does your partner need to know what brand of nappies you wore as a child? If you just want to "sex it out" hire and fire. Go hunting. If not, use a online dating network if you must. Why do you need to inbreed for that?(reply to this comment) |
| | from Nique
Monday, January 22, 2007 - 12:45
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I personally wouldn't go to a "hook-up" site for ex-members. I agree that it does sound a little too inbred for my tastes. I left TF back in '93 and haven't really had any desire since then to be around ex-members who weren't at least really good friends. Besides, I don't really think the type of guy that I'm in to would be found on an ex-member "hook-up" site.
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| | | | | | | | | | from AndyH
Monday, January 22, 2007 - 09:52
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Here's my two cents. You're some douchebag who desperately needs to get laid and will use any angle to pursue that end, including your coming from a cult. Maybe I'm wrong and you're the greatest guy in the world but this comes off pretty creepy.
Cheers!
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| | | | | | | | | | from itsxena2u
Sunday, January 21, 2007 - 21:30
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Here is my 2 cents (for what it's worth)
Last year I signed on to an online dating site which I'm sure many of you have heard of called Match.com. A few friends of mine told me it was a pretty good site for meeting/dating people so I decided to give it a try. I got a message from a cute guy who invited me out for a couple of drinks. I liked his profile so I decided to go out with him. When we met we started talking about our carreers, hobbies and whatnot. He seemed very nice but there was something unusually different about him, especially when I started asking him about his background and where he grew up. He told me that his mother was a missionary and a single mother. They lived in a trailer for several years and then he moved to Japan and worked in the music industry for a while. He later left the "missionary work" to join the army, got heavily involved in drugs and how he experienced a real breakthrough in his life.
He seemed like a very sincere guy but everything he was telling me just didn't sound like a "normal" to me. I had a strong feeling he was exfam. Finally after leading him on for a while I asked him if he was in TF/COG to which he was completely shocked and asked me who I was. It turns out that I lived with his mom and his 3 sisters about 12 years ago and although I had never met him I could see the resemblance.
We "hit if off" pretty well in the beggining. We had a lot in common, shared the same childhood, knew a lot of the same people and we felt we could relate to each other. But to me it seemed like he was "falling" too quickly and I felt something wasn't right. After dating for a couple of weeks he expressed his feelings for me. He talked about wanting to get married, buy a house and have more children. Although it all sounded very nice I wasn't sure how to react to how everything was moving so quickly but I went along with it. I remained friendly and kept my cool.
Sure enough, a month later upon returning from one of his business trips he sent me an honest heartfelt letter saying he was still very much in love with the woman (also an exmember) he had a child with 10 years ago and that he felt like he was doing me a disservice by being with me even though he still had feelings for his ex. This did not come as surprise to me, deep down I knew he was struggling inside and still wasn't sure what he wanted out of life.
He was sure that I was going to hate him for "hurting me" and just going through the motions in hopes that it would one day become real. I was very understanding and told him I knew how he felt and that he shouldn't feel ashamed or guilty about it and that I appreciated the fact that he was man enough to be honest with me about it and tell me what was going on instead of just dissapear altogether.
I wasn't hurt by it at all. I didn't allow myself to fall for him because although we got along great I knew it wasn't meant to be. I don't know if I would date another ex-member or not. But I would have to say that dating a fellow ex-member has its advantages and disadvantages. We all have a lot of "baggage" but it's really up to each individual how they want to deal with that "baggage" and what they're willing or not willing to put up with in order to make the relationship work.
I haven't spoken to him since we parted ways. I hope he's happy and doing well. I know I am. :-)
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| | | | | | | from rainy
Sunday, January 21, 2007 - 01:13
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It sounds like that really sad and pathetic find-a-mate service the family started just before I left. And all the single National Indians would eagerly await its arrival, for some reason, I can't remember why, I wasn't allowed to see it. I THINK I was 21 already...but maybe because the only reason I wanted to see it was so I could laugh my ass off at the desperate losers on there and give 'advice' to the people in our home who were so earnestly trying to contact them. Anyone else remember that thing...whatever it was called?
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| | | | | | | from 3wds
Friday, January 19, 2007 - 20:37
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You're flying blind.
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| from Oddman
Friday, January 19, 2007 - 20:19
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Um, yeah.... Great way to hook up with long lost siblings I'm sure.
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| | | | | | | | | | | | | | | | from dumb idea
Friday, January 19, 2007 - 17:33
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Don't shit in your own backyard.
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| from savage
Friday, January 19, 2007 - 16:27
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Hmmmm......NO! And honestly, the very thought freaks me out.
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| from PopNFresh
Friday, January 19, 2007 - 16:18
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Maybe I just read it wrong. But this just creeps me out.
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| from Ne Oublie
Friday, January 19, 2007 - 13:03
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It sounds inbred.
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