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Finding Father

from Jesus Baby - Wednesday, October 09, 2002
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Is it even a good idea?

Has anyone ever looked for and successfully found their flesh father/mother? I donít know if this topic has ever been covered before, but Iím wondering if thereís anyone out there who has any tips/success stories/potential pitfalls that theyíd be willing to share.

The last time I actually saw my flesh father was when I was 18 months old. I have no memory of it at all. Iím now 22. Within the last few months Iíve developed an incredible desire to meet and get to know my dad. I donít even know what he looks like, as my mother burnt all his photos (at my step-dadís request, I think). I know it will be a very emotional journey Ė I donít even know if heís still alive Ė but feel an empty space in my life where I think a father is supposed to be.

If anyone has any helpful input, or would even only like to discuss this potentially complicated issue, Iíd appreciate it.

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from PissedOfff
Saturday, October 12, 2002 - 01:45

Iv'e never met my father either, yet another kick in the pants...
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from thepersoniamnow
Friday, October 11, 2002 - 23:09

My Father (Eli of Tirzah in Japan) has never really been interested in me or the 5 or so other kids he has created outside of his currently 2nd marrige.
I caught up with him about 4 months ago, after a 11 year blackout, and asked him for some help with my Legal work.
I needed some help with him signing papers as I am American/Japanese.
So I asked him if he wouldn`t mind going to the American counsulate in Tokyo (where he lives) to make it easier for me. I would pay for all the papers and procedures.
Well he said "no!"
He didn`t want to help me because it would be "time consuming" and asked me if I had consulted with my TW on these legal matters.
Well he can stick it!

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From noone
Sunday, October 27, 2002, 19:08

Typical. But I think to be expected... if they havent been there for you this far, what; short of possesion by vandari; would make them be there for you now. And even that might not work. I think its hard for us to admit that our parents realy were just over grown kids who realy didnt want the responsibility of us, so passed us off the who ever was willing to watch us, not particularly concerned with our well being or if we were being abused or whatnot.(reply to this comment
from Lance
Thursday, October 10, 2002 - 21:00

I also met my father at the age of 22; the first time in 20 years. We have remained in contact ever since. I have since then met many of my personal family that I would have never known otherwise.
I definantly think you should go for it as even if he turns out to not be the person you expected, you will have that question in your life answered and a sense of satisfaction will come from it. But if you don't then you will always have the regret of not knowing.
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from Abandoned Again
Thursday, October 10, 2002 - 13:30

I found my father when I was 20, after not having seen him since age 7 when he was excommunicated or left, I never got a full explanation. My hopes were dashed. It was just another heartbreak for me. He had tried to find me and my sibling when we were still little but my mother and others in the group hid us from him. I guess at some point he had to get on with his life too. I still can't help wondering if he could have tried harder. I am just trying to come to terms with the fact that he is now unwell and does not want help, it's not because something's wrong with me in this regard or that I am unworthy of love. But this is hard to really believe and act on. It's hard not to punish myself. I am trying to break the pattern of holding out hopes for people who are simply unavailable. I need to learn not to keep going back to empty wells.
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From Debzi
Tuesday, May 06, 2003, 04:08


Dear Abandoned Again,

I'm so sorry you are feeling this pain, I just wan't you to know that there is a Father in Heaven who does love you and you mean the world to Him (He is not that false weird jesus cartoon the family believes in) I'm talking obout the real Messiah ,who I came to know after leaving 12 yrs ago. Zerb the perv and Beastly Burg have caused thousands to mock their true Saviour, by making them do all kinds of discusting things with this cartoon thing, and making them think it's Jesus. Well its not!!! The Family is heavily involved in whitchcraft and sorcery, the whole thing is totaly demonic, I don't think most of us are aware of how dark and evil it is. We are survivors and we didn't let this thing keep us captive for long, as soon as we came to our senses and were old enogh out we went!

I think the best way to get to our parents is to pray for them and break the demonic strongholds off their minds so they can be loosed and then be able to think for themselves.

Does anyone out there agree?

I love you Abandoned Again. (but not by God)

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from Jerseygirl
Thursday, October 10, 2002 - 07:34

My "flesh father" left the family when I was 2. I made contact with him 24 yrs later on this site!
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From Jesus Baby
Thursday, October 10, 2002, 08:06

Really? How was it? Did you ever meet up? (reply to this comment

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