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Getting On : Family
Going different ways! | from surfgirl - Thursday, August 18, 2005
accessed 1256 times I need to know....is anyone else in this situation, or has anyone gone through this? What happens when your partner wants a different life from you? Specifically, what happens when they want to head back in the direction you both came from years ago?
Has anyone had this experience of their partner missing that life and returning to TF? I would be very interested to hear from you. How did you cope with it? What was your relationship like afterwards and how did you deal with it in regards to your children?
Obviously I'm going through this and am finding it all a bit hard to deal with.
Any real comments or experiences would be helpful.
Thank you.
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Reader's comments on this article Add a new comment on this article |  from Haunted
Friday, August 19, 2005 - 16:05
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Hey, while I wouldn't know anything about a partner going back to the cult, I can certainly relate to going through a separation/divorce with kids. Email me if you wanna chat.
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| | | | from Coolfire
Friday, August 19, 2005 - 06:01
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I added my comment to your post on my site as I feel more freedom to expound there.
http://www.angelfire.com/music6/coolfire/A_truth/index.blog?from=20050819
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| from ErikMagnusLehnsher
Thursday, August 18, 2005 - 23:20
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Wow. You certainly have my sympathies. I hope everything works out. I've got to confess that I am completely mystified by the whole concept of RE-joining (or joining depending on how you look at it). I had a lot of good friends in TF (though the vast majority have now left) and sometimes I have fond memories of good times with them but I can't even fathom the thought of rejoining. Since leaving, I have not regretted that decision for even a second...even in the most stressful and difficult of times.
I can't even imagine the tailspin my life would go into if my wife woke up one day and said, "I'm going back to TF and I'm taking the kids me if you don't rejoin, too." I don't even want to think about it. I don't have any experiences to share but maybe others do...I'm in a state of shock. You have my deepest sympathies. I hope your husband comes to his senses and things work out.
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| from Agast
Thursday, August 18, 2005 - 21:08
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I don't mean to be flippant, but did your significant other have any serious head injuries recently?
At the very least, be sure you keep custody over ALL the kids. That way they'll learn to keep masturbation and prayer separate.
Also they'll learn that in the "real world" people have to work for their money, and not just con other people out of theirs, like their lazy-ass dad and his unemployed friends.
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|  From lisa
Friday, August 19, 2005, 01:29
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There have been times, when I have missed the family, Mainly when I first had my baby, and was all alone. I don't think I ever could rejoin, a taste of freedom is a powerful thing, but I can see the attraction. I don't have any first hand experiance on your situation, but I have seen it the other way. A good friend of mine when I was still in rejoined, and she had a child with an outsider. It was hard ,as any situation like that always is, but she found that just talking and staying open about everything worked really well. Of course there was a huge difference in beliefs, but they made an agreement that each would teach the child their beliefs and let the kid choose for him self. Also sitting down and having a very open conversation about levels of care etc. Anyway I hope you are ok and everything works out for you. (reply to this comment) |
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