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Swallowing the party line

from Wolf - Sunday, November 27, 2005
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A number of this site’s newer (and perhaps younger) members appear to be echoing TFI’s “party line” regarding ex-members and abuse. For their sake, allow me to present a brief overview of the fundamental flaws with the “party line”:

Party line: Ex-members who talk negatively about TFI are losers who can’t make it in life and blame their problems on TFI.

Answer: Most of the ex-members I know (including those who actively criticize TFI) are more successful than average, have a good job, receive good pay, and have plenty of friends. Personally, I am very happy with my life, and I even attribute my successes partially to the struggles I faced in earlier years. When I speak out about the Family, I’m not complaining: I’m doing my part to expose a filthy organization that is rotten to the core, even if it is doing some good deeds on the periphery.

Party line: Everybody makes mistakes. So what’s the big deal? TFI made some mistakes and learned from them.

Answer: Where does one draw the line between a “mistake” and a “criminal offense”? The answer is actually quite simple – if you break the law, you are no longer just making a mistake, you are committing a criminal offense. TFI leadership did not make mistakes – they committed well-documented criminal offenses. And that’s why they’re hiding – they are fugitives from the law. They are not hiding from the antichrist or whatever other bogus reason they give.

Party line: TFI has apologized. Why can’t ex-members just accept our apologies and move on with their lives?

Answer: I have read each of TFI’s “apologies” very thoroughly – they are all very vague and apologize for the actions of some members who might have made mistakes. In the apology that mentions David Berg, once again they shift the blame to people who “misunderstood” his writings. That’s complete hogwash – children were abused because the group’s members did exactly what they read about in the group’s publications. The group’s leaders very clearly advocated adult/child sex, physical mental abuse of children, denial of education, and exploitation of minors in a number of publications, most of which are still available today on web sites like

In order to be worth anything, an apology from TFI would have to contain the following points:

An admission that the majority of children who lived in the TFI from 1979 – 1985 experienced some form of adult-child sexual contact, as a direct result of COG/FOL publications. It should be recognized that this sexual contact had a negative effect on most of the children involved.
An admission that TFI leadership protected TFI members who either engaged in adult-child sexual contact or administered harsh discipline by helping them to dodge the authorities, consequently exposing an even greater number of children to abuse from these individuals.
An admission that TFI leaders knew of specific individuals who had abused children and did not turn them over to the authorities.
An admission that the majority of children who lived in the TFI from the group’s early days until now were exploited by being required to take part in some form of “fundraising” which invariably involved lying – for example, claiming that the money was going to help poor people in India when in reality it was destined to pay for the living expenses of TFI members.
An admission that the majority of children who lived in the TFI were denied an education equivalent to the minimum required in the countries in which they resided, as a direct result of TFI publications.
An admission that David Berg, Karen Zerby and Steven Kelly are ultimately responsible for all of the above and a sincere request for forgiveness.

Party line: Why can’t people stop focusing on our past and look at the good work we are doing today?

Answer: Here is a brief list (not comprehensive) of things that are wrong with the Family right now:

    Many older children in TFI continue to be denied an appropriate basic education, due to TFI’s policies against children attending public school. The average 18 year old in TFI does not have a high-school equivalent education.
    Inappropriate material is included in TFI’s official school curriculum, such as “Astronomical Fakery” in which David Berg states that the furthest star is less than 24 “light hours” away.
    Teenagers in TFI are given inappropriate reading material, including a publication that suggests that boys and men should become “women in the spirit” and engage in sexual relations with Jesus Christ.
    Most TFI income is earned illegally. Additionally, many TFI members lie to receive income.
    Despite vague apologies for past crimes TFI continues to vilify individuals who attempt to seek justice. No compensation or reconciliation of any kind has been offered to abuse victims.
    In the last 30 years TFI leadership have received many written reports naming specific abusers, but not one name has been turned over the authorities for investigation.
    TFI is current run by individuals who publicly abused Ricky Rodriguez and Merry Berg, and condoned adult / child sex.

  1. Unlike conventional churches and charity organization, TFI is not open to public scrutiny such as financial audits and transparency checks, so there is nothing to stop past abuses from happening again.

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from Christy
Sunday, December 11, 2005 - 08:24

Right on! I understand why so many are very emotional about these issues, but I like the way you've stuck to well-supported facts. I think it makes for a very strong arguement.
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from Fish
Thursday, December 01, 2005 - 09:00


Well put. Its sad how otherwise intresting and friendly people can go off the deep end so. The other day I recived an email from an old friend. He was excomunicated recently, but mayhap he has rejoind. He sent me some nazi esay regarding the suposed "Protocols of Zion". Here is my reply, and then his:

______, you dimwit, its comonly known that the "Protocols" are fake. Their is no massive jewish "thing" going on. Umkay? The only "thing" you need to think about is your idiocy in staying in an obviously corupt, not to mention stupid, CULT. Make some money and come to Ukraine like your much smarter brother has done. I would write more but I have a drop dead beautiful girl to meet and large amounts of vodka to drink. PTL? TYJ? Keep on keeping on! Amen?

Mad Dad

He wrote (note the GN influence)

Lol, since when was "what's commonly known" been the truth? I seriously doubt you even read the thing much less with comprehension. Too much vodka eh? Don't get me wrong, I love vodka...but when you're so blind that the only thing you can see is a Ukrainian woman-who's sole purpose for being with you is your money(what little you have)-two inches from your nose, I start feeling kinda bad for you. And yes, she's probably beautiful, every country has their beautiful women, but unlike you, I don't think the Ukraine is the only place one can find a beautiful woman...especially when you fork out. Think about it, I really don't think you have it any better than the guy next door...except maybe you think you do...ignorance is bliss?--I guess so. It seems like you've lost any and all forms of ambition and true idealism...we can always blame it on the vodka no?
And if you're trying to get me to envy you by telling me about your life, think again. I'm a little bit more of an idealist than you are and therefore don't fall so easily for the peaches and cream.
Don't throw your entire life down the drain because you want to go the opposite direction of your childhood. I don't blame you for the choice you made, but I would wring every last drop of goodness and training I could from my former life--the smart ones have. Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
And I can't believe you fell for this 'corruption scam' your ex-member counterparts have going around about Mama and Peter and WS. To think you know so much of something you know so little of is downright hillarious! I mean, it's good for laughs if nothing else though, lol. But to let a little vocal minority manipulate your thoughts and words without you acquiring adequate proof is not a good my humble opinion that is.
I would also venture to say that your so-called friends who convinced you of these things, are not only not your friends--they just screwed you!--Pulled a fast one on ya and are probably laughing behind your back calling you a sucker. They're manipulating you and any others that fall for their lies, don't let them do it! Put the Family and our beliefs aside for a second, it's your dignity on the line here!

Glad Dad

What can one say in the face of such conviction? And if you are reading this "Glad Dad" I hope you stop using so many fucking excalmation marks.

Amen? Do you?

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from more
Thursday, December 01, 2005 - 06:37

add to that the fact that repeat offending child abusers are in positions of leadership and trust within the Fam, with access to children holding childcare roles.
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from live_fast-die_young
Thursday, December 01, 2005 - 01:09


Well said, Wolf!

Brevity is the soul of wit.
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from Bones
Wednesday, November 30, 2005 - 19:55


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from AndyH
Wednesday, November 30, 2005 - 15:22

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Well done! Very professional and to the point. You covered pretty much everything that's wrong about TFI without resorting to hearsay or any emotional bias. Its sad that logic this sound is still ignored.

"You can't talk to a psycho like a normal human being."
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From Mustachio :{D
Wednesday, November 30, 2005, 19:56

Poe, not the poet, the musician right.(reply to this comment

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