from Jules - Saturday, January 29, 2005
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The Family’s spokesperson Claire Borowik has written me several times over the past few years, and did so initially after I was interviewed for Dateline in September of 2001 (she expressed her concern that speaking to the media is not a positive thing for former members to do). The emails have always been civil and in her correspondence to me, she has always expressed support for this forum. To see this web site now being attacked so bitterly by the Family is very upsetting to me, since I have always assumed that she spoke for Peter, Maria and Family members.
I have posted excerpts of our communications below. Please note that prior to these emails the following articles had been posted on this web site. My position has not changed, the policies of this web site has not changed, and all of the issues that Family members are so upset about us speaking out about had already been written about at this point.
Articles that were posted at that time:
August 04, 2001
My Jumbo Story – My account of what her own husband, Lonnie Davis, had put me through when I was 13 - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=10&ID=69
July 21, 2001
One of Our Own – About the suicide of a former member - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=8&Cat=34&ID=67
August 22, 2001
Big, Big Creep - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=10&ID=75
September 23, 2001
Why People Who Joined the Family Suck - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=21&ID=137
October 11, 2001
Criminal Prosecution - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=10&ID=155
November 30, 2001
You Abused Me - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=8&Cat=19&ID=195
December 02, 2001
Murder - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=8&Cat=19&ID=198
January 06, 2002
Maria Refuses – A personal letter from Maria to some young current members regarding abuse in the Family - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=9&ID=227
March 18, 2002
Is Justice On Our Side - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=31&ID=290
March 31, 2002
Destroy The Family - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=20&ID=308
April 26, 2002
Why The Family Can Never Truly Help Departing Members - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=16&ID=355
May 08, 2002
Answer from Zerby on Abuse Story - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=10&ID=379
In April of 2002, I invited Claire to come to this forum to openly and directly answer questions that people had. I explained that there was a lot of anger, but I felt that Family representatives taking the time to listen and talk directly to us about issues we had raised would be healing, helpful and beneficial all round.
She wrote me the following:
Apr 29, 2002
“Thanks for your note, I appreciate your communications and time permitting of course, I would be happy to work with you on this if you think it would be beneficial for those accessing your site. I do agree with you that the "moving on" approach is the most healthy as far as helping people to take on a new career.
For me, the main goal is to see people adjusted and progressing in their chosen career, studies, etc. after they leave the Family. Of course, their choices also play into the overall equation, but anything that can be done to assist in that process is definitely worth the time. Ado may also be able to invest some time in this.”
“All that to say, I'd be happy to be available, at least to give it a try and see if it's helpful in any way.”
“I think what you're attempting has potential for good, seeking healing, understanding and positive vibes sure beats some of the negative bitterness and hate that some of the other sites foment”
Unfortunately, after this email, I heard nothing further from either Claire or Ado about this at all.
On July 12, 2002, Claire posted an article herself on this web site. http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=9&ID=526
This was an edited version of a private email to me and an immediate response to address something she felt was inaccurate. Days before (July 9) I had posted the contents of a personal letter from Maria to a young person that they had forwarded on to me. http://www.movingon.org/archive.asp?sID=1&Cat=9&ID=518
As you can read in her own article, Claire stated that this letter was not, in fact, completely accurate and that paragraphs had been inserted into it.
I wrote her and expressed my thanks for her immediate attention to something that she believed was not accurate and factual. It has always been important to me that this web site remain true and accurate. I asked her to please continue to immediately point out specific things that have been posted that she felt not to be true. Since Claire seemed to have access to Maria’s private email, her help in keeping distortions and exaggerations off this site would be invaluable.
Her immediate attention to this issue also led me to believe that she was very familiar with this web site and read it frequently.
However, it goes without saying that this is the only “inaccuracy” she has ever addressed, despite the open invitation to do so at any time. No clarification or rebuttal was ever posted to the other articles listed above, which led me to believe that they were in fact correct.
At this time, the following articles from Ricky and Albatross had been published as well:
May 14, 2002
For Every Action, There is a Reaction – From Albatross - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=31&ID=394
May 25, 2002
The Gospel of Rebellion – From Ricky - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=3&Cat=25&ID=421
June 04, 2002
Life With Grandpa, The Mene Story – From Ricky - http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=3&Cat=25&ID=445
Please note the following quotes from Claire in her email to me (which she herself also posted online) http://www.movingon.org/article.asp?sID=1&Cat=9&ID=526
Jul 12, 2002
“As you’re very aware from our former correspondence, we respect the right of former members to express their feelings and opinions and debate and discuss issues on forums such as your web site. Our sincere wish for those who were once part of the Family is that they can lead constructive, fulfilling lives and “move on” to whatever new goals they set for themselves once they decide they no longer wish to make serving the Lord with the Family their lifetime career.”
“I believe you have made an admirable effort through your site to assist former members in the process of “moving on” to more constructive models for their lives. There has been a real endeavor to bring about a balanced approach, and I believe, a sincere desire to represent the truth, eschewing the distortions, embellishments and falsehoods that some have regrettably resorted to.”
I suppose I just don’t understand why Claire would say one thing to me and another to the Family and the press.