from sarafina - Tuesday, November 04, 2003
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This was a comment one of my girlfriends (a exmember) wrote in regard to "parent's and their responsibility" She wanted to respond to a comment but it didn't post so I'm just posting it for her as she can't find the original comment.
On the subject of parental responsibility: I feel that this is indeed a very delicate matter that certainly touches on our emotional side. The question of how much our parents were to blame for the abuse we suffered as children. When I desperately struggle to find an answer for my parents "acceptance" of things I would never condone as a parent myself, one word comes to mind....ignorance. But, is ignorance something that can be blamed? After all, isn't knowledge power and freedom.
Some of our parents were more ignorant than we are today, because they chose to be, they chose to "drop out" and "shut off" the outside world by embracing Berg's teachings. They were then indeed ignorant. But is willful ignorance (which is the only term I can come up with right now)a crime? In a way I think so, but I also feel that the love I feel for my parents has overshadowed much of the wrong they did to me with a sort of shield and I find I have chosen to make excuses for them and feel sorry for their ignorance, as they no doubt have seen the stupidity of their mistakes now. I only wonder what it must be like to have parents that still stubbornly hold on to their ignorant ways and they themselves are the ones in denial.
It seems like it is even harder for the first generation who joined to come to grips than it was for us, like someone once said, all the people who joined were misfits for a good reason they joined cause they were odd to start with
Truthfully, they were seeking a "way out" of responsibility like they didn't want to go to college or work. Seems like the family way of life gave them a way to fit in and be "special" Whereas in the general populace or society they would be "losers" at worst or "normal" at best some may have achieved to great things but.....we all chose our way.
Some who left, finally got some sense and made some good but I think our generation strives harder cause we want to exceed where our parents failed.