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from mia1 Monday, May 16, 2005 - 14:29 (Agree/Disagree?) i'd like to get in touch, email me at mia_poochie99@yahoo.com (reply to this comment)

from DeeJay Friday, January 21, 2005 - 03:25 (Agree/Disagree?) perhaps i'm looking kinda for the same thing as you. My situation's odd in that i'm from a supposedly "sensitive" country, so not that i can't, but i don't talk about my past simply not to endanger them. because of this i've had to basically block it all out of my head and assume a certain "story and personality" in which to function. Just seeing this site today though made me think alittle bit about it. it's true that a lot of our identity comes from our childhood, and it's something we have to come to terms with in one way or another. i just hadn't thought of how to go about it till i saw this. I was born and raised in the family, left in december 2000, i was 19, now 24. I work in the education sector, and like you have been fairly successful. Since i left i have had no contact with anyone either in or out except my mom and sis. she told me about this site today, and i thought i'd just check it out. i like your tone alot better than alot of these other ridiculous loud mouth punks. if you're interested in alittle chatting, my e-mail's on my profile. (reply to this comment)

from Moon beam Thursday, April 29, 2004 - 05:24 (Agree/Disagree?) I feel for you. When I first left, I also didn't have anyone to talk to and felt un-comfortable telling "system" friend's about myself. I was however, able to come into close contact with other ex's and work through my feeling's, get angry, make fun etc... I found it invaluable to be able to talk to people that didn't need a run down of my history. However, I am now more then comfortable with telling friend's of my crazy past with the attitude of "well, that's me!" It get's easier everytime you do it. More often than not people are more aware of cult's and the abuse's people suffer in our society and are understanding and often in awe of how far I've come. It was not alway's so, when I was younger I did get some bad reaction's from past boyfriend's and friend's but found that rather then it being me who should feel bad, it's them, for their shallow and ignorant view's. I feel that if you can't be honest and get support from friend's they are just not worth it. WE are all individual's who have different experiences, and there isn't a yard stick for "normal". I now have a fantastic relationship and a big part of that is the communication and understanding that come's from honesty. When the frightened, abandoned, unseen child in me becomes distressed, I can get support and comfort for her by getting angry, seeing my partner get angry for me (something I didn't do at the time or have from anyone) and grieving for the loss. Comfort is also something I never got and I'm learning everyday to tell her how brave and strong she is, how she never deserved what happened to her, that I am in control now and will alway's protect her the best way I know how. I will not leave her to be fed on by any more lion's. She never trusted Adults, but hopefully she's already started to trust me and eventually she'll let me be all I can be! It's interresting that you say you are "not totally against" the cult. I would like to know why you feel this way. Do you still have family in? (reply to this comment)