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Getting On : Lovers
Sharing is Caring | from celestej - Wednesday, December 17, 2008
accessed 466 times I just have to say that out of all the twisted, bizarre family beliefs and practises, the one concept that blows my mind the most is "sharing" your lover with someone else. As the most jealous human being alive in the area of romance, my boyfriend is not allowed to think about touching another woman (Unless I'm involved in the process. Threesomes can be a lot of fun ;) ). I've concluded that I would have lasted about half a day in the Famliy. The moment someone suggested that I allow my man to go into another room with another woman and have sex with her I would have gone absolutely ape-shit. Heads would have rolled, there would possibly have been a fire that mysteriously broke out and burned down the whole compound. Seriously, there is no force on this earth or any other that could make that idea acceptable to me. It's just shocking to me that so many people went along with the sharing idea, especially couples who were married and supposedly in love. Jealousy is an emotion that is almost impossible to stamp out, no matter how brainwashed a person is. I know that it caused a lot of problems between the adults, especially the women, I'm just curious as to how people kept from killing one another. |
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Reader's comments on this article Add a new comment on this article |  from Baxter
Sunday, December 28, 2008 - 09:15
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I rememeber my dad once telling one of my Aunts how sharing his wife with another man made him feel a closer bond to that man!!!!
I mean how much more chauvinistic can you get!!!??? It's like getting to know a neighbor better because a common interest in the same make of motorcycle or something!
'Hey man, smooth ride!'
'Yeah mate, rock on!'
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| | | | | | | | | | from celestej
Thursday, December 25, 2008 - 00:19
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Um I was talking about the adults who joined the Family, not the children who were born into it.
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| from rainy
Wednesday, December 24, 2008 - 11:25
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So let me get this straight- you were not raised in The Family? May I ask why you choose to hang out on this website?
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|  From Shaka
Wednesday, December 24, 2008, 22:49
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She was raised in TF. I knew her for years until I was about 12 I think. Hi Peacie! Heh heh, yes I will call you that till I DIE!! Remember when I put the dead crab on your plate and made you bawl your eyes out cause you were sorry for it? And when you smacked face first into a fire hydrant on roller skates and had to wear an eyepatch? Ahhh, good times. (reply to this comment) |
| | From celestej
Thursday, December 25, 2008, 02:13
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I saw them cook that poor crab ALIVE, that's what I was crying about. I thought it was so cruel, to this day I can't eat crab (I have a few times but I felt bad). Dude, yeah that was gnarly when I fell, I'm lucky I didn't sustain any brain-damage (Or maybe I did, that would explain a lot ;) ). I looked like a pirate for a few weeks. Are you back from the Middle East? I'm glad you're alive and well.
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| | | | | From celestej
Monday, January 05, 2009, 04:37
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TTL !JFK! HIV! MSG! HBO! OMG! LMFAO! I think I'm going to need you to write me a four-page OHR and then we can pray for the Lord to help you with all your battles (I mean your spiritual battles) and rebuke the enemy (I'm speaking of the devil). Dude, my Mom still writes me letters in that creepy family style with all those ILY's and GBY's, and lots of words underlined- and tons of exclamation points! ! ! !(reply to this comment) |
| | | | | | | | | | | From celestej
Monday, January 05, 2009, 04:53
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By the by, on the subject of my article, I don't know if you remember but my Mother and your "Mother" (Harvest) were having a knock-down, drag-out fight over that A-hole Ben when we lived in Hawaii. I guess he was screwing both of them or something, and Elam was too, then my Mom got pregnant and she had to sit down with Elam and Ben and the home "shepherds", and neither man wanted to take responsibility for the pregnancy. Somehow they figured out it was Elam's. Anyway, I just remember Harvest HATED my Mom and I felt like she was extra mean to me because I was her daughter, even though it had nothing to do with me. I don't know if you remember any of this.(reply to this comment) |
| | From Shaka
Monday, January 05, 2009, 14:22
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Yeah, I remember. Harvest had major psyche issues and was mean to many kids when she couldn't get back at their parents, she did the same thing to my step brothers before I met you. She was very weak-minded and wouldn't stand up to most adults so the kids would suffer. I don't talk to Elam much, he's got his own demons. As for Frank (Ben), we are not on speaking terms and to this day I don't think I could be in a room with him without putting him in the hospital. Fucking dirtbag.
Lol, your mom was a strange one, no? Remember she would walk down the street talking to herself (complete with wild hand gestures) and we would lag behind her as far as we could to pretend like we didn't know her? I used to crack up when she'd burst into tears every time she saw Berg on video. I got cracked over the head several times for laughing at her antics. Totally worth it.(reply to this comment) |
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Monday, January 05, 2009, 12:17
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When I was child certainly there was no choice. Once I turned 18 it was expected that we were supposed to share with the adults, or YA's. There was a lot of pressure put on me to share and that I was not revolutionary. That I was not following the spirit of the letters. I still said no. After you turned 18 you did have a choice. It may have carried with it terrible consequences. But you could say no. (reply to this comment) |
| | From celestej
Monday, January 05, 2009, 04:21
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I realize that the children had no choice, but the adults had a choice. I don't know about any of you, I love sex and consider myself quite sexually free, but there's no way on earth I could ever willingly share my husband. Or my boyfriend or girlfriend. That would have caused me some very severe emotional stress. Were there any ADULT couples who were truly in love with each other and just refused to partake in the sharing ritual? Since I'm continuously reminded what a youngster I am amongst you, please enlighten me.(reply to this comment) |
| | From cheeks
Monday, January 05, 2009, 12:24
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To my memory when they had sharing night most everyone looked forward to it. When my parents were shepherds of their own home they stopped sharing night and let people do their own thing. Some couples chose to sleep around and others did not. Usually it was the single men who were asked to sleep with the single women and vice versa. Some single women asked that they not have to share and usually it was not really a huge issue where I was.
To me esp when I became a teenager it seemed the shepherds liked having these little relationships outside of their marriage. Like cheating it was exciting to them. For the most part after the eighties I did not see a lot of swapping of partners. The was some sleeping around but it usually wasn't a big deal. (reply to this comment) |
| | | | | From celestej
Monday, January 05, 2009, 04:11
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For the millionth time, I know I was a lot younger than most of you when I left. But I was there and remember everything very vividly. I was thirteen the first time we left officially. And we still had some sort of Family status for a long time afterward, we still had to go "witnessing" and read "The word" and my mom still hung out in Family homes and was trying to rejoin but the man who later became her husband kept fighting to get her out. This went on for most of my teenage years.(reply to this comment) |
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