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from NOMORE!!!!! Friday, January 14, 2005 - 14:02 (Agree/Disagree?) I KNEW THAT M.F.ER, HE WAS ALWAYS ON A POWER TRIP (reply to this comment)

From Joe H Friday, January 14, 2005, 16:58 (Agree/Disagree?) Would you mind not writing in all CAPS? It's considered yelling, and much harder to read. Thank you.(reply to this comment)

from porceleindoll Sunday, February 24, 2002 - 22:04 (Agree/Disagree?) When we think of abuse, at least when I hear the word abuse, I think of sexual abuse. But if you take physical, mental, emotional and even spiritual abuse into the picture, it widens things. I was never sexually abused, I was approached on occasion, got touched a little further than the friendly hug, but nothing I would classify as real abuse. I was never physically beaten either, mouth taped, silence restriction, etc. But if you talk about spiritual abuse, I think a lot of us fall into that category. Would you even consider it more dangerous than the other two because it's so deceptive? It doesn't hurt your physically, it doesn't invade your privacy in a sexual way, but it sure screws up your mind, beliefs, faith, trust. (reply to this comment)

From Sara S. Tuesday, March 05, 2002, 10:05 (Agree/Disagree?) Porceleindoll, I'd have to agree with you about spiritual (or mental) abuse being just about as damaging as pysical or sexual abuse...the mental aspect of the abuse I've experienced has been much harder to deal with and get over, I am still having to tell myself that it was all total bullshit! I'm totally over having been put onto silence restriction, and being stuck in a trailer for 2 months working on the mom team project, honestly, I'd totally forgotten them (I'm realizing that I have a selective memory), so...those things are coming back, but are easier for me to deal with. It's the mental and spiritual aspect of living life for myself, and trying to be happy as I am now...finding out who I am and what I need to do to be personally happy without the feelings of guilt. The hardest for me in the past (since leaving) was accepting that the family is not the only place that you can be "happy", it's not the only place to do good for others, and it's not the only place that is the "center of God's will". Those things were the hardest for me to accept...because of the fact it meant my being honest with myself that everything that had been drilled into me...was false. I'm still dealing, I'm still learning, but I'm happier than I've ever been. (reply to this comment)